Aug 2, 2010

Bridentity Crisis – Everyday Me vs Bride Me

The first time I heard the words bridentity crisis was in the book Offbeat Bride.:
When I read this I was like AMEN SISTER!! You are taking the words right out my mouth! I felt like the faded t-shirt and jeans wearing everyday me was getting ready to take on the peep-toed shoe and white dress wearing bride me in a knock down drag out fight.

The first time (yea there have been many) I experienced this was when I was making my very first inspiration board. My inspiration board contained photos of “girly” things that I never would love as everyday Miss Meerkat. It contained things like romantic flowers and ball gown style dresses. It hit me one day that I just couldn’t see myself in that inspiration board. When I looked at it, it was someone else I envisioned on there.

Now I would love to be able to write about how I found some quick fix for this but just when I think I have defined my identity as a bride something else for the wedding comes along and throws me back into a bridentity crisis. What keeps me sane is forcing myself to step back and look at the whole picture. I ask myself is that me or is that a vision of someone else I am building. Yea doing this has bit me in the butt a few times as I had to scratch my ideas and start again but when I look back at the original and the more “me” version I am much happier with the “me” version.

Any of you have a bridentity crisis? What do you do to keep yourself sane?

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